As we near the holidays, life becomes hectic. Teenagers are stressed cramming for finals, moms are fighting over the newest toy at the mall on Black Friday, and everyone is pressured to have the perfect start to a new year. With all this chaos, the holidays can sometimes feel like another checklist—something we must endure rather than enjoy.
People are constantly disappointed by “the most wonderful time of the year.” We get so caught up in aspects of our normal lives and putting on the holidays for those around us that we become focused on simply getting through the season rather than relishing it.
It is easy to treat the holidays like just another task on our plate of never-ending things, especially since they no longer have the same magic they did when we were younger. As kids, we glorified the holiday season. The lights, elementary school parties and seasonal episodes excited us as we impatiently waited for the holidays to finally come. As teenagers, this anticipation doesn’t exist. While studying for finals, trying to find the perfect gift for Grandma and navigating unpredictable weather and icy roads, we naturally lose our childhood cheer.
Rather than let this ruin the season for us, it is our responsibility to make the holiday season enjoyable again. It is our responsibility to make this time of year magical. The holidays didn’t change, we did.
When we focus on what we can give to others rather than curating a perfect holiday, the season starts to feel full again. Even if you do not have a family to host or a big gathering, there are other ways to participate in all the gifts that come with the season.
If you struggle to find your place this holiday season, find community through service. Donate to those in need. If you cannot donate money, donate time. By helping others, you help yourself.
Acts of service and kindness trigger a chemical response in the brain releasing serotonin, dopamine and oxytocin. Serotonin regulates your mood, dopamine gives you a sense of pleasure and oxytocin creates a sense of connection with others. The combination of these creates what is known as a “helper’s high” which boosts self-esteem, elevates happiness and combats feelings of depression. Giving back also lowers stress levels, which are typically high during the holiday season.
The holidays are not about decorations, presents or even fantastic food; they are about connecting with others through gratitude and joy. It is crucial to be abundantly kind to people during this time of year because, for many, the holidays are a reminder of loved ones they have lost or the communities they do not have. Extend the holiday spirit to all those around you, and the season will become better for everyone.
Restore the magic of your holiday season by making it magical for others. When you shift your focus from receiving to giving, you’ll find that the holidays become meaningful again, and they truly will be the most wonderful time of the year.
